Give up the whine

As sympathetic as you were to the friend who constantly moaned about how fat she was, you secretly wished she’d put a sock in it instead of scoffing all the damn pies. Men aren’t any different: nothing is more off-putting than a woman who constantly points out her flaws in the hope of snagging a compliment. Chances are he probably didn’t notice you have bingo wings (you know how unobservant they can be), but now you’ve pointed them out, it’s all he can stare at. Got a bit of podge around your midriff? Give it large and proud like Missy Elliot and men will say: go girl! Confidence is an extremely sexy commodity, so shove all your insecurities into a cupboard, lock it up and throw away the key.

Left on the self

Belief is nine-tenths of being a sex goddess. Self-affirmation, as corny as it sounds, is an extremely powerful exercise to prepare your mind for your transformation. Stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eye and say: ‘I am a sensuous, beautiful and sexy woman.’ Repeat this mantra every day before you leave the house and you’ll grow to love the image of that strong, sensual woman. Just make sure you lock the door beforehand.

House of love

Your bedroom should be the throbbing centre of your sexual prowess. It’s quite hard to flirt and flaunt your goodies when you know a frilly flock duvet with a cheese sarnie stain awaits you back home, so start renovating the hub of where all the magic happens. You have to create the ambience to suit your new sex goddess image so cast off any inhibitions, dot tealights around your room and sprinkle a few drops of musk into your oil burner. Whether satin or silk adorns your bed, make sure your boudoir exudes a scent of desire to put you in the right frame of mind.

Dressed assured

Men drool over scantily clad women gyrating on television, but it doesn’t mean that it fulfills their ideal of a sultry woman. Barely covered boobs trigger only one part of a man’s anatomy; to be a sexual goddess you’ll also need to set a few brain cells alight. Sex appeal isn’t about attracting the wrong type of attention, it’s about subtly luring the right men with your smouldering charms.An elegant dress that flatters your figure is far more powerful than a skimpy little thing that leaves little to the imagination. And wear sexy lingerie – always. It doesn’t matter if no one will see it, you’ll feel much slinkier knowing you’ve got it going on!